Love Is… The Toxic

 

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I may have the language to identify gas-lighting or projection, but if I do not love the narcissist, those defining words are as useless as broken instruments.

 

 

 

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I may correctly understand the unfathomable motivations behind a toxic personality, and I may be strong enough to remove myself from one, but if I do not have love, I gain nothing. I may put everything into freeing myself from abuse and accomplish it, but without love, I am still a victim.

 

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Love does not respond to narcissistic abuse, it is a gray rock. It holds no resentment.

Love does not use any of the narcissist’s tactics against her, it is not manipulated, it does not presume to deduce her motives.

It does not vilify the perpetrator but acknowledges her brokenness.

 

 

 

It carries the weight of soul damage, yet it hopes in healing and perseveres in recovery.

Love never fails. Promises made by toxic people fail. Our attempts at redeeming the friendship, fail. Even our opinion of what a healthy relationship looks like will fade.

This is because we only partially know love.

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But when we love our tormentor like Christ does, then that fragmented understanding will be made whole.

When I was a victim, my heart victimized itself. My identity was based on the abuser’s definition, I believed her lies: but when I understood I was abused, I put away victim mentality

 

 

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And even though I am still plagued with distorted thoughts, I am learning to think clearly about myself. I am seeing who I am in Christ. And when I see him face to face, I will be like him.

This helps me abide in healing faith, nourishing hope and regenerating love. But the greatest antidote to my brokenness is love.

 

 

1 Corinthians Paraphrase from February 2018

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Love Is… A Wild Child

brawlin-betties-1197374Though I have learned to speak with grace and don’t yell at my young people like I used to, my changes are empty if I don’t have enough love to be gentle with a rebellious and erring young adult.

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And though I can explain with biblical reasoning why his choices will only lead to sorrow, and though I have the life experience to back it up; if I still fall into fear and anxiety about his course of action, my counsel means nothing.

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And though I gave up the accumulated dollars of twenty years income to become a homeschooling mom, but can’t communicate to her that I love her more than the cost of her bad choices, the salary I sacrificed is wasted.

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Love suffers with the prodigal as the natural consequences of their rebellion bears fruit.

Love is kind and does not say, “I told you so,” when they meet disappointment.

Love does not resent the pain it carries because their bad choices affect me personally.

Love does not nag the prodigal to try to get them to see the error of their ways.

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Love does not respond in anger when the prodigal blames me for all his problems.

It rejects the thought, “after all we have done for her, this is how she repays us?”

Rather love’s concern is in supporting the prodigal so she can get past this season of life with as little collateral damage to herself as possible.

Love keeps calm under duress.

It does not get lost in the drama of loving a wild child.  Instead, it seeks happiness outside of the volatile relationship.

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Love is not blind to the reckless choices the prodigal makes.

It is not complicit in his folly.

Rather, love gently speaks the truth about the rebellion, while still rejoicing in the good things about her child.

Love shoulders the prospect of watching a son lose everything,

Still, it believes that God can save him.

It hopes in complete restoration.

Love recognizes that sometimes the prodigal will remain broken;

and while living according to conviction, it reshapes boundaries to be able to maintain contact with her rebellious child.

Love doesn’t quit when all looks hopeless.

Pleading with the prodigal will fail.

Rationalization will be futile.

We may not know how to help them,

But when their story is played out, they will hopefully have learned something.

When my child was born, I wrapped him in hopes and expectations; but as he grew I had to put those away.

Right now her future is dark to me. But someday this will all be explained.

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Then I will see how God worked His grace in our family.

But until then I abide in…

Faith for God’s saving promises…

Hope of His providential power…

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Love for my wayward child.

1 Corinthians Paraphrase Originally Published February 2017

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I Love You… I am Sorry…

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I say it to my husband.


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I say it to my children.


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I say it to God.



It should be my mantra.



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I love you… I’m sorry I hurt you.


I love you… I am sorry I got angry at you.


I love you…I am so sorry my sin bruised Your soul.



My love is tangled with regret.



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My love brings pain.


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My love yields sorrow.


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My love delivers heartache.



Yet they still love me.



He still cherishes my soul.


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They still forgive my weakness.


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And He still offers His blood so I can live.

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Fruit and Flower Torte

Image-4I was making my husband a jelly roll, doing laundry, and writing when I got a phone call. Guess what happened to the cake? Right, it was overcooked. It did not burn, but it wasn’t soft spongy cake anymore. I did not want to waste it, so it became this Failed Jelly Roll Torte. It tasted quite good, even though it was born from disaster. I made jam with fresh strawberries and lemon buttercream (I will give you the recipes soon). After eating this simple torte, I started looking at other ones online and discovered a viral cake craze.  It is a fruit and flower decorated torte, designed by Israeli baker Gargeran. And I decided to make a plant-based version. I am quite pleased with how it turned out.

Make it for Valentine’s Day and surprise the ones you love best!

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Fruit and Flower Torte

It is best to make the Torte and Meringue Cookes the day before you want to serve the cake. This dessert consists of four separate components.

  1. Vanilla Torte
  2. Aquafaba Meringue Cookies
  3. Aquafaba Meringue Cream
  4. Fresh Berries and Flowers

 

Assembly

  1. Make a triple batch of Vanilla Torte (recipe below) and divide it equally between 2 prepared 18×13 inch rectangular pans. When the cakes are cool, cut them into 12×7 inch rectangles. Save the discarded cake for a snack.
  2. Put each layer on a cake board and individually wrap them in plastic wrap. Then put them in the freezer until ready to use.
  3. Make the Aquafaba Meringue Cookies, (recipe below). When they are cool, put them into an airtight container. Save until ready to use.
  4. Make the Aquafaba Meringue Cream (recipe below) on the day you plan to serve the cake.
  5. Gather all the prepared ingredients and assemble your cake. Take the first torte, using a plain large piping nozzle and bag, make giant Hershey’s Kiss shapes with the Aquafaba Meringue Cream on the entire surface of the cake.
  6. Put the next cake layer on top of the cream. Decorate it just like the other one.
  7. Design the fruit and flower arrangement on an empty cake board and transfer the pattern to the top of the cake.

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        Fill any empty spaces with more fruit and flowers. Refrigerate. This cake is best eaten the same day it is prepared.


 

Vanilla Torte

1 cup white flour

1/2 cup sugar

2 teaspoons baking powder

1/2 teaspoon salt

1/4 cup oil

1 teaspoon vanilla

1/2 cup plus 2 – 3 tablespoons vanilla rice milk

  1. Set the oven to 400 degrees. Prepare 2 – 18×13 rectangular pans by greasing and lining them with parchment paper. Cut the paper about one inch larger than the pan, so the sides of the cake are also covered with the paper.
  2. Sift all the dry ingredients together into a bowl.
  3. Mix the wet ingredients in another bowl.
  4. Add the wet to the dry ingredients, mix well and pour into the prepared pans. Make sure the batter is evenly distributed.
  5. Bake at 400 degrees for 10 minutes.
  6. Lower the heat to 350 and leave the oven door open for a few seconds to quickly reduce the inside oven temperature.
  7. Continue baking for an additional 20 – 25 minutes. The cake should be quite firm but not burnt.
  8. When completely cooled, remove the parchment paper.

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Aquafaba Meringue Cookies

All the liquid from a 1lb. 13oz. can of chickpeas (aquafaba)

1 cup water

1 cup sugar

1 teaspoon vanilla

pink food color gel, not liquid

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  1. Prepare a cookie sheet by greasing the bottom and sides then putting parchment paper on it. Set it aside. Heat oven to 170 degrees Fahrenheit.
  2. Drain and save the liquid from the chickpeas. (Keep the chickpeas for another recipe). In a small saucepan, reduce the aquafaba until it is 1/2 the original amount. A can of chickpeas usually has about 1 1/2 cups of liquid. That should be reduced to 3/4 cup. Cool the reduced liquid in the freezer until it is quite cold, about 15 minutes.
  3. Using a mixer beat the aquafaba on low until it is foamy. Increase the speed to medium-high. Continue beating until very stiff peaks are formed.
  4. While the aquafaba is beating, make a simple syrup. Put the water and sugar in a thick bottomed saucepan. Let the sugar completely dissolve in the water before turning the heat on. After the sugar is melted turn the heat to medium-high and then cook it until it boils.
  5. Continue boiling the syrup until it reaches between 220 – 230 degrees. Lower the heat.
  6. Slowly drizzle the syrup into the meringue one spoonful at a time. Between each spoonful, return the syrup to the burner to keep it in a liquid state. If the syrup gets cold, it will get hard.
  7. When all the syrup is incorporated into the meringue add the vanilla and mix one more minute.
  8. Divide the meringue. Keep 1 cup of meringue in the mixing bowl and put the rest in an airtight container. (Use the leftover meringue to make French Macaroons. I will post a recipe for Lavender & Lemon French Macaroons soon).
  9. Add 1 to 2 drops of the food coloring gel and whip the meringue until the color is even.
  10. Use a small star piping nozzle and make the cookies on the parchment lined cookie sheet. They should be no wider than 1/2 inch.
  11. Bake the cookies for 3 hours in a 170-degree Fahrenheit oven. They will be crisp on the outside and chewy on the inside while they are still hot but will become completely crunchy when cool. Let them cool on the cookie sheet. When they are at room temperature, put them in an airtight container.

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Aquafaba Meringue Cream

You will use the same ingredients as for the Aquafaba Meringue Cookies, omitting the food coloring. Additional ingredients are:

1 1/2 teaspoon agar agar powder  (agar agar is a plant-based thickening agent that behaves like gelatin. You can order it online, or find it in health food stores).

2 tablespoons water

1/4 cup lemon juice

  1. Follow the directions for the aquafaba meringue cookies. Make sure you read the following directions before beginning the recipe.
  2. Put the sugar in the water and let it sit until all the sugar is dissolved.
  3. Mix the agar agar and 2 tablespoons of water in a small cup. Let it sit to the side until the sugar syrup is almost done. It is important to let the agar agar soak for at least 5 minutes.
  4. When the syrup reaches 180 degrees add the agar agar to the syrup. Use the back of a spoon to stir the syrup and incorporate the agar agar. The agar agar may stick to the bottom of the pan, stirring with the bottom of the spoon will prevent clumps of agar agar from being pulled off the bottom of the pan and ruining the meringue.
  5. Drizzle the sugar and agar agar mixture into the meringue as directed in the Aquafaba Meringue Cookie recipe.
  6. After all the sugar is incorporated, continue mixing as you add the vanilla and then add the lemon juice one spoonful at a time.
  7. Put the cream into a large piping bag with a large plain round nozzle. Follow the directions for assembling the cake as outlined above.

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Love Is… Intimacy

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I promise that my desire for you will be patient.

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It will be a gift given from my heart to express a spiritual, mental and emotional reality.

It won’t covet selfish fulfillment, nor boast in its beauty or intensity.

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It will express the inner workings of my soul.

It will do no unbecoming thing and is not the goal of our relationship.

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It will not be stirred up on a whim or left to languish from inattention.

It will not be allowed to lead to depraved thinking.

It will not revel in immorality, but rather in intimacy.

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It will wait for expression until ordained by Christ.

It will rejoice in its rightful consummation.

I promise to keep our loving touch in God’s ordained course.

I will protect its purpose.

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Our plans for pure desire may sometimes fail because we don’t fully understand how to be “one”,

But when we are complete in Christ, our partial understanding of true intimacy will be gone.

Like children can’t comprehend adult things, neither can we fully understand God’s purpose in this gift.

Yet we can be confident that through it we participate in His original intent,

And by His grace, we will grow in faith, hope, and love.

1 Corinthians Paraphrase Originally Published February 2016

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Love Suffers

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Love suffers long…

It is kind, even though I am thoughtless…

It is not jealous, even though I am faithless…

It is humble, even though I am proud…

It is sensitive, even though I am tactless…

It is generous, even though I am greedy…

It is not irritated, even though I am irritating…

It thinks I am valuable, even though I am worthless…

It is pure, even though I am indecent…

It silently covers sin, even though I advertise it…

It entrusts itself to me, even though I am unreliable…

It is certain, even though I am discouraged…

It pursues, even though I run away…

It is not driven out, even though I repel it…

I do not understand this love…

But I do know this…

He is faithful to me…

He hopes the best for me…

He loves me, for He is love.

“Beloved, let us love one another…for God is love.” 1 John 4: 7, 8

Paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 13 originally from February 2016
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Love is… Family

1 Corinthians 13 Paraphrase from 2015

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It doesn’t really matter that I follow the rules of effective communication when speaking with my husband.  If I do so in an unloving manner, my words are useless.

And if I warn my children that their choices won’t yield good fruit and chide them when it happens, I have taught them nothing.

And though God answer my prayers, removing mountainous problems, if I remain unloving, I am nothing at all.

And though I pour all my energy into serving my family, yet I keep score about it, my work is insignificant;

Love patiently endures and is tender hearted.

Love isn’t jealous.

Love doesn’t brag and isn’t proud.

It is never coarse; is not self serving; neither is it irritable or suspicious.

It sorrows for unrighteousness and sympathizes with truth.

It silently bears all things.

It is buoyant.

It expects the good.

It braves all things.

Love cannot be driven out: predictions shall fail, language will come to an end, and science will become useless.

Right now my ability to discern my own weaknesses is incomplete and my capacity to appreciate God’s saving power is limited.

But when I am glorified my partial understanding shall vanish away.

When I was immature I talked, felt and thought immaturely.  But when I grew up I put away those things.

Similarly, right now I only know about God by what can be seen through a dark mirror, but then I shall see Jesus face to face:

Right now I can understand a fraction of His love, but then I shall understand it as fully as He knows me.

So, I remain expecting these three gifts, faith, hope and love, and the most excellent one is love.

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To Everything There is a Season

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She threw the bowl of cereal at me… it only makes sense because she is two. How could I be upset?

 

 

 

 

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So much of what parents struggle with is age-appropriate behavior.

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1

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Can I Help You?

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I have a history of helping those I love. Sometimes I do so even at my own expense. I am not talking about Christlike service; I am talking about an unhealthy lack of boundaries. God has shown me that my need to help those I love does two things. Firstly, it makes them an idol to me. You see, I have been willing to fill other’s needs above what I am reasonably able to do, which puts them above my health and well-being. And that is a place only God should fill. Secondly, it restricts their liberty which once again usurps God’s position. When I mitigate the results of their choices by helping, it disallows God’s law of natural consequences to be exercised. This puts me above His law and is essentially blasphemy.

Help is a delicate dance. It must be balanced by godly love. Godly love says, I extend myself for other’s salvation, but allow them the liberty to reject it. It insists I do for others all that they cannot do for themselves. It demands I consider whether the help given will make them dependent on Christ or me.

There is one place where godly help can be given without reservation. It is in prayer. I can plead for the Lord to do for others that which I should not. I can remind God that His mercy transcends rebellion and ask Him to allay the sting of natural consequences. Intercessory prayer is the one arena where my desire to help need not be tempered with restraint. And it is the one place where the greatest power to help resides.

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Butternut Squash Soup

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As I write this, it has been snowing for 12 straight days. The snow on our lawn is about three feet deep. As I always say, a Michigan winter is like living in a snow globe.

Snow globes are nice, but their fascination lasts only a short time.

I like the snow, but we have too much of a good thing. So here is a recipe for a sunny soup that perks up those winter blues. A friend recently made this recipe for the first time and she said, “I did not think that soup would taste as good as it did. It was delicious.”

I hope you try it and enjoy it as much as she did.

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2 large butternut squash

Peel, seed and cut the squash. Cook them covered in water until they are tender. drain them reserving 4 cups of the cooking broth. Set them aside.

Put the following ingredients into a blender:

1 cup cashews

2 cups reserved broth

1 clove garlic

blend until perfectly smooth. To the blender add:

2 teaspoons dry dill

1/2 teaspoon garlic powder

cooked squash

If necessary blend the ingredients in small batches. Add the rest of the reserved broth as necessary. Pour into a large soup pot. Heat the soup through. Add salt to taste and garnish with fresh parsley or dill

Gluten-free.

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Next Year

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For possibly centuries, Jews of the diaspora finished their religious New Year’s meal (Passover), with the phrase, “Next year in Jerusalem.” This expressed their desire to go home. Home to the land that shaped their faith and expectation. Most of the Jews who said those words had never been in Jerusalem, still their greatest desire was to be within her gates.

The world is overflowing with sadness. And “men’s hearts fail them for fear, and for looking after those things which are coming on the earth…” Luke 21:26. I wonder what new sorrow this year will add. I am tired. I long to be in my heavenly home, where I will not even remember this place (Isaiah 65:17). With all of my heart, I join that other diaspora and say,

“Next Year in Jerusalem.”

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Nostalgia, part 3

baby-1767974In Bethlehem, Jesus took our broken flesh that He might redeem it. But He was the Lamb slain from the foundation of the world. The reality of His sacrifice, though not carried out at creation, was still a fact to Him. Fully omniscient, He knew all the details of His anguish before the universe was made. He knew that He would be sold for the price of a slave. He knew the taunts that would be hurled at Him. He knew He would be bruised and beaten. All of this He knew. But omniscience knows more than just the hard things, it also knows the joys. That means He knew that in human flesh He would reign king of the universe. He knew that He would be the great Second and Final Adam. He knew His DNA would restore and redeem humanity. Therefore before creation, as He diagramed all the components that would make up mankind, He purposed that the first Adam should reflect the last. He said, “Let us make man in our image. “ Not only in the image of His Godhead, but in the image of His future state, as a living breathing man, made of flesh and bones.

The entire story of Adam’s creation is a prophesy. But Adam did not know that his life was a type. He did not understand the he and Eve reflected the relationship between Christ and His bride, but it is so. Both brides were created from the pierced side of their beloved. Both brides fell and were given the hope of Immanuel. The only difference in the analogy is that Adam chose to sin and die with his bride, while Christ chose to obey and die for His. So when God said, “Let us make man in our image and after our Likeness,” it expresses what He knew He would someday do. He, our Immanuel, would “leave his father… And … cleave unto his wife: and they (would) become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24

This christmas let us rejoice in knowing that we will soon be in the likeness of our beloved’s glorified flesh. We will live like Him, be wrapped in skin like His, see with the discernment of His eyes and feel with a heart just like He has. We will stand in the New Jerusalem and see Immanuel, our perfect Holy God; our beloved man of flesh. “We will be like Him, for we will see Him as He is.” 1 John 3:2

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Nostalgia, part 2

baby-1767974That first Christmas, The angels must have looked at God’s gift to man with awe. They must have hovered close and breathed His sweet baby smell. Or counted His fingers and toes. They might have seen His skin, still bathed in birth-dew and been amazed. When He cried, His voice must have thrilled their hearts. They never would have guessed that a tiny lump of flesh could hold eternity. But there He lay, the universe’s King, wrapped in humanity. Praise was the only response possible when they first saw the baby Jesus. “Hallelujah”, they sang, “Glory to God in the highest.”

 

 

Jesus Light of World 2We love the nostalgia of His birth, but Christ’s humanity is still breathtaking.  Today He is our faithful Priest and King.  “…because Jesus lives forever, He has a permanent priesthood.  Therefore He is able to save completely those who draw near to God through Him, since He always lives to intercede for them.  Such a high priest truly meets our need…” Hebrews 7:24- 26   I am amazed that He sees my complete brokenness and still wants to rescue me. I am amazed that He sees my faithlessness and never leaves me. He is everything I need.  He is all hope.  He is our salvation.  He is our best gift.  Share Him with someone this Christmas season.

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Nostalgia, part 1

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Christmas holds our hearts in the nostalgia of scented pine, lights shining on the tree, and extra time with loved ones. We are griped in the joys of getting and giving.

 

 

 

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And because we love God, we revel in knowing the true reason for the season.  As Christians we take this time to acknowledge our gratitude and indebtedness to Christ for condescending to be born in human flesh.  We sing about his infant head resting in the rough manger.  We teach our children that he was born a babe and grew just like they do.

 

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We remind ourselves that in taking humanity, Christ became our high priest.  We remember, He is touched with the feeling of our infirmities, faithfully making reconciliation for our sins.  Every Christmas we are comforted that our God came down to live our life, in our skin, with our eyes, and with our heart.

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The Most Valuable

The gem in a box of Cracker Jacks is not valuable. It only takes about 1/2 cent to make. The Pink Star diamond is worth 83 million dollars. It costs more for various reasons. One reason it is worth more is that greater resources were spent on acquiring it. That is simple economics. Here is a startling application of that principle, the great sinner is worth more than the saint because it took more to redeem him.

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Doubtful?

Let me prove it to you.

Enoch was a sinner, but he was also a good man. He was so close to God that he was taken to heaven without seeing death.  Conversely there is Manasseh, who was toxic.  After listing his sins, which included child sacrifices, 2 Kings says, “Manasseh seduced them to do more evil than did the nations whom the Lord destroyed before the children of Israel” (verse 21:9).  But Manasseh was saved.  At the end of his life, “…He entreated the favor of the LORD his God and humbled himself greatly before the God of his fathers” 2 Chronicles 33:12.

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So in redeeming these men, on which did Christ spend more of His blood? Right, on Manasseh. And since Christ’s blood is the thing with the greatest value, simple economics insists that Manasseh is worth more than Enoch because more riches were used in his redemption. And the Bible agrees. “But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound…” Romans 5:20. More grace, more value.

This concept is not just novelty. It is practical. It is supposed to change me. When I deal with a toxic person, I have to remember Jesus paid an enormous price for their sins. Therefore, the co-worker who lies about me, the ex-husband who had an affair with the best friend, or the white supremacist at a rally are precious, because great resources were spent on their opportunity for salvation.

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Seeing what they cost Christ should change how I feel about them. The value I place on that toxic person is proportional to the value I place on Christ. As long as they are unredeemed, the suffering He paid for their sin becomes suffering without recompense. That means that when I think of that person and the pain they cause me, it needs to be linked to the pain Christ experienced for them.

I would hate that Jesus should have suffered in vain. Therefore:

I will pray for the toxic in my life (Luke 6:28).

I will deal righteously with them (Proverbs 25:21).

I will turn the other cheek while keeping out of their reach. (Matthew 5:39, John 2:24, 25).

I will not allow them to indiscriminately hurt me because that increases their burden of guilt (Romans 12:19, 20, Matthew 10:23).

I will care about their salvation (2 Timothy 2:24 – 26).

I will not vilify them (James 4:11).

I will remember that their salvation cost Jesus more than most people’s (Romans 5:6).

In humility, I will consider them better than me (Philippians 2:3).

And in God’s strength I will strive to bring them to peace with heaven (Luke 19:10).

All this I hope to do, so Jesus will see the travail of His soul and be satisfied. (Isaiah 53:11).

“I tell you that there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous ones who do not need to repent.”  Luke 15:7

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Thrill Seeker

We have all heard commercials for the latest blockbuster that end with words like,  “This will be the thrill of your life!” 

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Or maybe you have been on that long line, wilting in the sun, while those ahead of you pile into the cars of the roller coaster, hoping to experience the most thrilling ride ever. 

There are many thrills to be had.  Whether it is the summer action film, the amusement park, the work promotion or the new house, they are all exciting things.  But they are transient.  The lights turn on, the cars stop and reality steals the surge of that last moment.

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The queeziness rises up from your stomach and you wonder if the roller coaster was such a good decision after all. 


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The promotion involves more work and politics than you expected. 


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The mortgage is just a drain on your freedom. 


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These earthly thrills eventually leave us empty and in the end they take from us instead of give.

But there is another thrill.  A thrill that never ends. 

It is being in God’s company.

That thrill remains regardless of the situation, because He is the adventure of a life time.

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Dark days may come, but He is your light. Psalm 27:1


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You may walk in the valley… but He is the mountain. Psalm 125:2


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You can have great joy, but He can bring you higher still. Psalm 18:33

The Lord is the answer to every thrill seeker, for He promises…

Your eyes will shine, and your he

heart will thrill with joy.…  Isaiah 60:5

 


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Happy Thanksgiving

 

This year I am thankful that we have the opportunity to glorify God’s name. The Bible says, “Fear God, and give Him glory, because the hour of His judgment has come…”. Revelation 14:7. But how does one give God glory, He is already glorious.  I searched and found some texts that show some of the ways we can glorify Him.

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“Whoso offereth praise glorifieth me…”  Psalm 50:23


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“Whatever you ask in My name, that will I do, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son.” John 14:13


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“I glorified You on the earth, having accomplished the work which You have given Me to do.” John 17: 4


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“O LORD, You are my God; I will exalt You, I will give thanks to Your name; For You have worked wonders…” Isaiah 25:1


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“… whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified…” 1 Peter 4:11


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“… glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:20


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“My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples.” John 15:8


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“Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16


hundredpercent_featured “Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31


hand-1549399_1920 “And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more… to the glory and praise of God.”  Philippians 1:9-11


Since the bible instructs us to glorify God, this Thanksgiving, I invite you to…

“… magnify the LORD with me, And let us exalt His name together.” Psalm 34:3

by our loving words, thoughts and actions.

 

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Gluten Free Thanksgiving Entree

There are a growing number of people who are gluten free. If you are one of these people and also eat a plant based diet there are times, like holidays, when what is on your plate is not as appetizing as what is on other people’s plates. Well this is the last year for that!  Here is a gluten free recipe for a Thanksgiving entrée that even meat eaters will love.

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Gluten Free Bread Stuffing

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1 loaf multi grain gluten free bread, cut into small cubes.

1/2 teaspoon each chopped fresh rosemary, thyme and sage

2 cups celery chopped small 

1 cup thinly sliced onions

2 tablespoons olive oil

  1. Take the cut bread and bake it on an ungreased cookie sheet at 350 degrees for 30 minutes, stirring occasionally.  The bread should be well toasted and firm, but not too hard to chew. In the meantime begin step 2.
  2. Put the oil in a small pot, add the celery and cover.  With the heat at medium-high let the celery get hot enough so it begins to sweat. Stir in the onion.  Lower the heat and continue cooking covered until the vegetables are soft, but not turning brown. Stir the vegetables occasionally.
  3. Add the toasted bread cubes to the sautéed vegetables and stir to mix.
  4. Cover the pot and let it sit off the heat for at least 30 minutes so the bread gets soft from the steam coming off the vegetables.
  5. If you feel that the bread is not getting soft enough, you can drizzle small amounts of vegan chicken seasoning that has been mixed in water, until you get your desired softness.

 


Thanksgiving Roasted Portabello Mushroom

Marinade

3 tablespoons sesame seed oil

1 tablespoon lemon juice

2 teaspoons McKay’s Chicken Style Seasoning, Vegan

2 large portobello mushrooms, prepared

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Prepare the mushrooms by cutting off the stem and taking the black fins off with a spoon. Next score the bottom of the mushrooms about 1/8 inch thick into the flesh.

Make the marinade by putting the sesame seed oil, lemon juice and vegan chicken seasoning into a small bowl and mixing together.

Put the prepared mushrooms into a gallon sized freezer plastic bag and pour the marinade on them. Remove as much of the air as possible and seal the bag. Move the marinade around so all sides of the mushrooms are coated. Let rest at room temperature for 30 minutes.

Pre-heat the oven to 450 degrees.Take the mushrooms out of the marinade and fry the tops for 5 minutes. Fry them in what ever amount of marinade is left on them. You can add some more marinade if necessary so they don’t stick to the pan, but you don’t want to have greasy mushrooms.  Fry on high heat to get a light crusty top on the mushrooms.

IMG_0548Bake the mushrooms on a rack that has been put in a cookie sheet. This will allow the mushroom liquid to drop down into the cookie sheet and not make the mushrooms slimy. Bake for 5 minutes on each side. Take them out and serve them on top of some gluten free stuffing.Garnish and serve.

 

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